The problems that we are experiencing in childhood opting about the quality of our lives as adults. They also can affect the course of action that will tomorrow adopt our children as well as how we face adversity. This are emotional wounds.
Somehow, from these emotional wounds or painful experiences from childhood, we are creating a part of our personality.
Let’s see what are the 5 emotional wounds by Lisa Bourbeau.
First Fear of Abandonment
Loneliness is the worst enemy of those who were abandoned during childhood. There is constant attention to the shortcomings. This will lead those who have suffered the abandonment while it is still early for this, for fear that they are not the ones who will be abandoned.
It is a kind of “I will go before you leave me,” no one supports, I can not stand all this “if you go, do not come back” …
People who have experienced the experience of leaving during childhood, have to work on their fear of being alone. Also they must work on fear of rejecting and invisible barriers of physical contact.
The wounds are caused by leaving, not even a little light for treatment. Persons will become aware when the wounds begin to heal and disappear when the fear of being invisible. When it will be replaced intimately dialogue that is positive and hopeful.
2nd Fear of rejection
Since it is a deep wound, it causes internal rejection. We think of what we have experienced in our thoughts and feelings.
When it occurs, can influence a number of factors, such rejection of parents, family or themselves. This creates a sense of rejection, negative thoughts, feel unwanted leading to underestimation of themselves.
A person suffering from this painful experience to feel does not deserve sympathy or understanding than anyone. He is isolated in its internal void of fear of rejection. Probably, if you have had these problems during childhood will be “elusive” person. Therefore, it is necessary to work on his fear on their inner fears and situations that create panic.
If this is your case, you think about yourself, risk and make a decision for themselves. Anything less will disturb the fact that some people are moving away from you. You will not personally understand, just sometimes will forget.
This healing occurs when the various moments we have feeling that others do not approve of what we’re doing and criticize us. This problem can even be transferred to their children, telling them that they are rude, rude and insolent as to expose their problems in front of others: it destroys the confidence of the child. In this way, the type of personality that is created with this frequency, becomes “a person who depends on others.” You can take a stand “tyrant” and egoist as a defense mechanism, and can afflict other to create a shield to protect themselves. If you have experienced this experience, you need to work on your independence. Work on your freedom, your understanding of your needs and fears, as well as to your priorities.
4th Scam and fear of others beliefs
These feelings occur when the child feels cheated, especially by of a season of his parents who did not fulfill his promise. This leads to mistrust that stems from this problem can be converted into envy and other negative feelings, and feeling that you do not deserve what they promised and what others have.
These problems in childhood the thing suspicious persons and people always want to have everything for themselves. If you during childhood suffered from a similar situation, perhaps you may need to make some sort of control over others, which is normally a strong character justice.
These people admit their mistakes because of the way to react. Need to work on patience, tolerance, and to learn to be themselves and to themselves accountable for their actions.
It occurs in the context of when people who take care of children cool and authoritative. During childhood, excessive demands that exceed the limit, create a feeling of worthlessness and not efficiency, both in childhood and in adulthood.
The direct consequence of those who have suffered injustice is rigidity, because these people try to become very important and to win great power. This will probably lead to fantasies of order and perfection. As well as the inability to be confident in their choices. It should work on confidence and mental strength, trying to be as flexible as possible and to trust others.
Now that you know 5 of mental wounds that may affect your well-being, your health and your ability to develop, you can start with the treatment.